It sounds so easy doesn't it? Surround yourself with those who love you, and those you love.
Every day however, I work with clients whose lives are filled with toxic people; family, friends, partners. You know the type of person I mean: they are the people in your life who make you feel bad about yourself, that bring you down. They are the one-uppers, the passive-aggressive personality types where you feel drained just being in their presence. I call them "emotional vampires;" sucking the emotional life from your veins.
So if these individuals add nothing to life but making you feel worse about yourself, why keep them around? It really is a great question and one not easily answered other than by asking another one:
"When was the last time you prioritized YOU?"
We hold onto things, people, and emotions out of guilt, out of a lack of self-confidence (ie: what if I never find anyone better?) or because we have a history with that person. Holding onto relationships both romantic and otherwise for these reasons is not enough. It is not enough.
We need to fill our lives with those who make us want to be better people, who make us laugh, who we know are there for us no matter what.
Who is in your circle?
I am a Clinical Therapist who has been working in the field for 17 years. I specialize in supporting children, adolescents and their families, as well as adults experiencing mental health concerns such as depression and anxiety. I am married with two spunky little girls, ages 2 and 4 who keep me very busy!